The one thing every educator must do: Develop good relationships with students

Develop a good relationship with your students.

One of the benefits of developing a good relationship with your students is that teaching becomes more enjoyable. There is a good understanding between you and your students. There will be fewer conflicts that will arise, and the learning environment will be much conducive.

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The second benefit is that classroom management will be better. Your students respect you and trust you that you’re on their side. They will do their best and strive to excel in your class. It’s easier to influence your students to behave and do well in school once you have a good relationship with them.

In John Hattie’s research, strong teacher-student relationships proved to be a good factor in boosting the achievements of the students. John Hattie is the author of the landmark book on teacher effectiveness, Visible learning.

Think about it:  when we were students, we did better in subjects where we had a good working relationship with our teacher. We wanted to do well in their subjects because we had a good relationship with them. But in classes where the teacher was cold and distant, we did not put in as much effort.

So how do you go about developing a good relationship with your students? Here are five tips to help you out.

1. Get to know them beyond the school setting. This means learning about their hobbies, their interests outside studies, and about their family. This will help you have conversations with them that go beyond the academic setting.

2. Join them during snack and lunch breaks. It’s a good way to foster the positive relationship with them and a chance to get to know them beyond academics.

3. Support them during school events where they perform or participate in. Watch them play their favorite sport. Cheer them on during a competition. It all makes a different in your student.

4. Speak well of them during PTCs. Highlight their strengths and achievements during the term or semester. If you try hard enough, you’ll find something positive in every kid.

What you highlight doesn’t need to something big. It could be something seemingly small but actually impressive and important. For example, being honest or being helpful in a quiet way in class.

5. Be friendly and approachable. While we must maintain a professional distance with our students, being a teacher also means being their friend.


One of the most powerful quotes in education:

Students don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. 

Your turn, any tips to help foster better relationships with your students? 🙂 Share them in the comments below.

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Argee Abadines
Argee Abadines is the founder and chief content engineer of this website. He is a brain based educator and his educational interests are pedagogy, higher order thinking, creativity, and educational technology. He is also the founder of Bruner Learning Hub. He currently teaches high school business studies and economics. Previously, he taught English to primary students. He reads up regularly about trends in education and online media. You can visit his personal blog at

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